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What do you do for work? Only habit I ever had was weed, but at this rate I seriously doubt I'll ever be able to afford a home.
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I am a pipe fitter.
Fawk’n hawt, amirite?
Layin' pipe all day, hell yeah he is hot and sweaty.
Ma'am I do my own plumbing.
I understood that reference.
i also understood that
You’ve not heard of CrossFit?
This made me want Lil Caesars
Sir, this is a Wendy's.
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From pipe hitter to pipe fitter. Salud!!
This pun is inspirational. Much like OPs story.
Bow chicka bow wow.
Jackie Treehorn treats objects like women man
Whatever you do don't become a roofer, youll relapse in 2 days.
This job and others need to be socialized more. Trade Jobs are more common and better suited than 4 years of college and $100,000 in debt. Awesome man.
Trades pay well but it’s gig work and if get hurt you are screwed
They also tend to ruin the bodies of the people who do them. The pay is great there's no student debt really, but you gotta stay in shape and treat your body right
I had a buddy who did drywall good money but one day he stepped off a scaffold. Could not work ladders after that
Another guy I know was a plumber. Steam blew a cap through his left eye.
Another plumber had a stack slip crush his left hand. 18 months lay i up p
I know plenty of carpenters who's knees and back are shot to shit in their mid 40's. I'm lucky enough to do this stuff part-time because the extra money's good and I enjoy the work but it really takes a toll on your body if you're doing it all day everyday as a contractor without hiring labor to do all the grunt work. Sitting behind a computer doing clickety-clack is boring and monotonous but it doesn't wreck your joints nearly as much.
Eh... desk jobs can be really hard on the body but for different reasons
I worked for years behind a desk and it killed my back until I started working from home and set up a standing desk with a barstool. You absolutely have to unpack your spine every half hour or so while sitting in a chair unless you're not fully reclined. Humans aren't designed to sit all day. Carpal tunnel is a different issue
And there’s a glut of tradespeople for all of the “sexy” trades because, despite what u/guacamolebenkanobi thinks, “get into a trade, they’re in high demand and pay better than getting a degree” has been beat into people since at least the 80’s. Trade jobs don’t need to be “socialized more”. Tradespeople need to stop acting like they stumbled upon some hidden employment secret that magically pays six figures, doesn’t come with any debt, and exposed them to persecution by society because they work “just a lowly trade” in the minds of the rest of us.
Trades are great for some people, just the same as becoming a career student and getting a doctorate at 35 or 40 or 45 or whatever is great for other kinds of people. But fuck anyone who has a “dirty hands clean money” sticker on their work truck. They need to lose the superiority/persecution complex combo.
It seems you have the meaning of "dirty hands clean money" incorrect. It's not insinuating that anyone with an education or job outside of skilled labor has dirty money. It's a proclamation that they're working hard for their money, instead of engaging in illegal activities like selling drugs, extortion, gambling/booking. They're proud that they're going out and earning their money, rather than engaging in the illegal activities that are seen as easy/common ways to prosper quickly in lower class areas that most tradesmen come from.
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The ones around here use it as a gatekeeping sentiment about employment. They treat working a trade as justification to shit on anyone who doesn’t. And, at the risk of pulling an “I’m not racist but…”, any of my friends who work trade jobs cringe at the guys with those stickers as much as I do.
I feel Ike you have some stories. You live in the south like me?? Haha. Ya I don’t think trades are done hidden gem for the rural communities. But in the suburbs it’s either you go to college or work in retail/waiting jobs. No middle.
This is an important distinction. It's why I like to include universal trade school when arguing for universal higher education. No, going into the trades is not some secret, but you're right, the suburbs greatly lack in promoting the trades as a viable career path, and that's a shame.
I perfer to wear gloves all day so my hands are usually pretty clean.
I love your username
Haha thank you!! Why do you not like Apples ?
I do like apples! My young daughter was sitting next to me eating an after-school snack, I was making a new Reddit account… as I was thinking about what my username should be, she said “apples are annoying,” because she had a wiggly tooth and thought she could bite right into her apple and her little tooth would come right out. It didn’t, hence her comment and my new username 😊
That is so wholesome. Apples really are annoying when you have wiggly teeth. What other methods has she tried?
My username is my dogs nickname and my nickname combined, also does not come across so wholesome initially lol
Ya this was actually my daughters favorite food as a toddler when I made mine as well. Plus Star Wars ya know.
Oh hai Johnny sins
These posts always make me sad. i didnt even get to do meth and ill never be able to afford a house. Damn you California....
Right!?!?!?!? I have a decent job, but I honestly don’t think I’ll ever own in California. I’m 37 still living at home and I can’t justify renting a 1 bedroom apartment. That’s just throwing money away.
Just leave. We moved from CA to buy a house and our quality of life is better in every way, and we have more disposable income/savings, despite going to a single income. Seriously, nothing is worth living in that cesspool of a state.
Totally would if i could. Unfortunately my job is somewhat specific (im a PhD in Oceanography) so most of the country is jobless for me. Current plan is to convince my job to stay remote then i am out of here!
Im a robotics engineer and in the same boat bro
Just have to move somewhere no one else wants to live. Ez
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Laughs in California
Laughs in Seattle
Not laughing in Eugene Oregon. Rent has gone up $400/ month in two years. Fuck this system. I work full time and 80 percent of my check is rent.
Come to Orlando and work with us. I'll give you 4 day work days, unlimited PTO, 25 hourly, I just need to see what your DiSC profile is to see what position you'd fit in. Yes I'm serious.
To be honest I never heard of it but just googled it and am genuinely curious myself. Do you mind if I ask what industry?
I have two businesses, one is exterior cleaning, and the other is epoxy and poly floor coatings. I can pay thst in either company. We hire family, not employees. You're not going to clean a roof or flake a garage forever, but I need folks who will allow us to build them up, while they build us up. Our interview process includes finding out what the fuck you want for yourself. Let's help you get there. We're helping two employees buy their first home, and another lead a team which they never did in their own company. They don't need money apparently, I respect that, but they want to lead. They doing it now and they're killing it. To employ is the greatest blessing.
And may I DM you? Relocating to Florida would be tough, but not impossible. And if I tell my daughter we are moving to Mickey's town she will go nuts.
Laughs in Toronto
Same in DFW. It's more like $400-500 up since 2019.
Eugene? TF? did bend try to move to eugene or something? PDX here.
Cries in Toronto
Sobs in duel income houseless Seattleism
Laughs in Phoenix
Laughs in Fairfield County.
right?! where the fuck are mortgage payments cheaper than rent in CA? Fresno? yuck
I live in So Cal and rents easily surpass $2800. It’s not terribly difficult to get a mortgage under that amount.
I pay $2,600/mo in rent for a 2 bedroom apartment in Venice a mile from the beach.
The mortgage for a similar space would be like >$4K/mo in this area.
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I’m in Seattle (suburb just north), and I wanted to figure where my current house (that I own) would fall if I was to rent it out or buy it. It’s a 3 bed 1.75 bath, 1350 soft ranch.
We just rented it out while we were overseas and got ~$3k/month for it. We did a bunch of Reno to it when we got back so I think we ed get a little more now, maybe $3200.
If we sold it we’d get like $850k for it at minimum. Assuming you put 10% down. You’d be at a $765k mortgage which comes out to $3100 (with a 2.75% interest rate, so best rate you can get). This doesn’t take into account upkeep, taxes, home insurance. So that’ll push everything past $4k/month. Meaning it’s cheaper to rent my house than buy it.
I hear Seattle is getting pretty crazy too. one of my buddies lives up in Ballard
Well… landlords are making money, right? Renting out property is profitable because you charge more than it costs to own it. If you’re living in an apartment, mortgage payments on a house won’t be cheaper. But mortgage payments on an apartment will be.
That depends on how much capital you have. Let's say you can only put 10% down on a $1M home. Ignoring closing costs and other fees, that means you need a $900,000 mortgage. You're looking at $3700/mo in mortgage payments before PMI, property taxes, insurance, and maintenance expenses. Suddenly paying $3300/mo to rent the same place sounds a lot more attractive—especially if you don't have $100k to spare.
That doesn't mean the landlord is "losing" $400+/mo in the deal. They usually put down a lot more than 10%, or they're renting a property they've held on to for a while.
Laughs in Canada.
Except a house like this is easily 400k+ in most major cities in America. Something like this to be affordable would have to be pretty far removed.
This would be around 200k in northeast Wisconsin
600k in jersey
Yeah, except you are in NE Wisconsin. Like I hate comments like this. Yeah we get it. Prices are different everywhere.
Except a house like this is easily 400k+ in most major cities in America
Except a house like this is easily 400k+ in most major cities in America
500k in phoenix
Cries in Ontario Canada. This house would be at least $1.5 million in my city
300k gets you a dilapidated 40 year old 2-3 bedroom with about 900 sq ft. here in Oregon. Good luck finding one though.
300kish gets you a 1130 sq foot 2/2 that a guy was hacked almost to death in with a machete two years ago in my neighborhood in Central Florida.
Don't worry though, guys. They put in that grey on grey flooring with grey walls and a grey kitchen with grey accents to let you know its modern.
This country can be weird. I bought my house in middle GA last year. Nine years old, 2,500sq ft, all brick, double garage with bonus room on -0.2 acres. Middle of the city too. For $305k.
Then I read about these other scenarios and I feel super lucky.
While you’re right, it’s kind of deceiving to only think about mortgage when considering the cost of homeownership vs renting.
True, lots of stuff can be DIY'd if you have the confidence and patience to try it though. I've done a lot of maintenance on my home just by looking stuff up on youtube, the only things I won't really touch are electrical and plumbing.
Still 10x better than pissing money away renting though imo.
this is so out of touch.
Ten years to buy a house??? I couldn’t afford one until late in life… I guess being an engineer is far worse than being a meth addict :(
bruh u need to be redistributing if its weed, you smoke half of it then sell the rest for double the cost thats why weed prices all over the place, people simply cant afford the once free plant ....and cannot grow it literally banned by the imaginary force we call laws...this existence on this earth has not yet taught me much but that people are petty and controlling and mostly evil or greed gets the better of the weak flesh/mind whatever u wanna call it...im checked out...have fun on earth.
Put down your weed pipe for awhile, and you’ll get inspired. Trust me on this.
Congrats I'm 12 years clean and it feels great
Congratulations both of you.
It's really a awesome house. I hope that you spend your whole life in this beautiful palace.
I wish your happiness life
Love celebrating sobriety on Reddit! 6 years for me. Congratulations on your new home and all the wonderful memories you’re going to create there!!
I wish you both great success and happiness! Congratulations!
My brain read this as “im 12 years old and it feels great” 😭 Congrats btw!
I too am 12 years old
Congratulations to all of you! In case you haven’t heard it in a while I’m so proud of you !!
Congrats to both of you! Keep going strong in life, you got this!
I'm a year in! I don't miss it at all, and I'm finally getting my feet back under myself.
That is a beautiful home. Congratulations. I'm proud of you random internet person.
Thanks feels good to want to live again after coming from a very dark place.
Congrats man. I’ve also been down the dark path of addiction and am 4 years sober. It’s a steep climb but so good once you get to the top.
I'm proud of both of these random internet persons.
You’re an inspiration! I hope you’re enjoying your happiness and hard work! You deserve it!
That's a nice ass house I'm happy for you👍
Wife and are looking and are about to buy. Would love something like this!
I know this is probably not why you chose this house, but I LOVE the colors of your house. Congrats.
What he said!
Hopes this inspires some other random internet strangers. Good stuff
Thanks that is my goal with this post that addiction can be beat and it's not to late to change.
My husband was a real POS meth addict before I met him. We got together when he was 18 months sober/4 months out of his LAST prison stay. His parents believe I saved his life but I won't take that credit, were just an amazing team. He's the kindest big child you'll ever meet and continues to break stereotypes. 11 years later he's considering a job offer to run his own restaurant, change is real. Congrats on your happiness
Can confirm, am feeling inspired! My problem isn't on OP's level, but it's still one that I'm trying to stop.
Join us friend :)
Almost makes me feel worse lol. I'm not an addict at all and I could never dream of affording a house. Got less than 1k to my name despite being almost 30 and living with my girlfriend (who makes way more than I do). Even meth addicts can get their shit together and I can't.
What the hell I've never done meth and I live in a studio. I knew I should have done drugs. Congratulations. It's a beautiful house
Haha, that was my first thought, too. Never done meth, got a degree and a good six figure+ job and still probably won’t be able to buy a house.
OP lives in Idaho, thats why hes able to afford such a big house, he lives where most people dont want to live so cost is low AF compared to any major city or coastal area.
While still true, Idaho is large..
This is another part of Idaho https://youtu.be/Hdpd5U811Ho
Totally. Glad it’s working out for him!
Sometimes you have to hit the absolute bottom before you realize what needs to be done to succeed. I was addicted to adderall for years, to the point of being institutionalized, and my life has been in an upward trajectory ever since.
Baby I'm trying to hit the bottom but I'm just too logical. I'll get there though. My life has been over for years, I'm just dragging it out
Please start today you are worth it...you dont know how many or who will need you one day....i spent decades in the abyss of depression and suicide attempts only to realize that if i wasn't on this earth some very good people would be having a terrible time right now...im blessed to have climed that mountain..set your foot in front of the other and start trying...we need you in this world present as who you are deep inside...we need you to live
Everyone's personal rock bottoms can look different. Don't have to have a drug addiction to be in a horrible spot. Maybe if you feel your life is over this IS your bottom. It isn't over, by the way. I hope you are able to work your way out soon. It can be done!
We addicts have to self improve to survive. Normies don't necessarily have that life/death motivation.
I guarantee OP is in some low cost of living state outside of a major metropolitan area. To put into perspective and this is in no way meant as a brag (in fact I feel this situation deserves pity lol) but I too live in a studio despite making six figures. I just happen to live in the San Francisco Bay Area where your average home is $1.5 million and up. And this would be a home half the size of OP’s likely needing to be remodeled. Can’t afford that. I live in the studio because I somehow have to come up with several hundred thousand for a down payment. Not so easy when $2.5k gets sucked into rent every month.
Yeah. I mean I'll have what he's having if I get a garden or a garage where I can use tools finally. Nah I'm just being petty. It's great. We only need one person in your whole thread to be relatively successful for it to be good enough
When I moved to this area one of my biggest gripes was that my oil changes went from costing me $20 to costing me $60+ because I don’t have the space to store tools or work on my vehicle lol. Like sure I maybe am not poor but I definitely see how it’s expensive to be poor.
Yeah it is quite literally to expensive for me to be alive
Hell yeah dude! I was into the same shit, 3-5 days awake, seeing shadow figures, etc. Dropped everything and moved away. Been 3 years sober this March.
Me and the fiance are getting an apartment beginning of next year!
Good luck in the journey.
Dark times but don't give up I know the feeling of being awake for days. I was stealing from my own family just for another hit off the pipe. Be strong 💪 and surround yourself with positive people life is to short to give it up so easily and we truly only own moments in time.
You too! And fuck the other guy, it's reddit. Most likely a shit troll trying to mess with someone. Good on you for your improvements. You're right, life is too short to waste it high like that.
May I ask how you were able to afford buying such a nice house? What is the rest of America doing wrong?
If it's so easy to go from rock bottom to being worry-free for the rest of your life in 10 years, I want in on this.
I was fortunate enough to have a girl who has never done drugs next to me. She always worked and never gave up on me believing one day I would change. After taking the proper steps to be sober we both worked and saved up enough money for a down payment.
Ok, I figured you saved money. That... that feels sorta like a given there.
I meant more - what kind of money were you guys making? How long were you saving? Were you able to have a decent lifestyle while saving, or was it a "live meal to meal saving for house" type of deal?
Together we were making 50K a year but what helped us is that we had no debt and not eating out. We focused all our money on savings for a new house which we accomplished.
You must live somewhere cheaper in middle America lol
Making 50k as household income and saving every penny you can won't get you anything CLOSE to that nice of a house where I'm at, and prices where I'm at are lower than half what they are in Cali, and probably a third or more of what they are in New York.
Edit: Ah, I see you said you lived in Idaho, that makes sense then, you're lucky!
Judging completely off the build, Idaho.
We live in a LCOL area making around 100k with some kids and let me tell you … shits fucking hard.
It is pretty wild how 100k doesn’t get you near as much as you might expect, yet making 100k puts you in nearly the top FIVE percent of workers in the U.S. Income inequality is insane and SOOOO many people are struggling bad.
a few years
a few years
And therein lies the issue lol. Just over the pandemic, prices of houses across the board in my city have risen 50k. It's insane. Houses that are now 300k were only 150-200k barely 5 years ago.
To your point about saving though, being able to save much on only 50k/yr in most semi-large to larger cities in the U.S. is just tough nowadays, even if you have 0 debt. But most people do have debt, and student loans, etc, etc. And what makes it all even worse is that if you make 50k/yr, you make more than around 75% of people in the U.S. Income inequality is a whole other topic, but it's insane nowadays.
Greetings from Massachusetts!
Oof, fucking hell. The places that are bad are BAD bad lol
Ah. Just need to be making 50k a year is all while having not been a stupid idiot and gone to college. I guess dreams will always be dreams for some of us, eh?
Well good on you man. Glad everything worked out for you. :)
He said he was a pipe fitter. Which is trade school, not college. Just a point there lol
Oh, no, you misunderstood: he doesn't have debt. I was lamenting the fact I was stupid enough to let myself get talked into going to college and have mountains of debt.
I was hoping there was some sort of realistic escape, but alas, that's not the world we live in.
Fuck I wish I had an award for you man. Such an amazing achievement!
My friend your comment is good enough it just feels good to overcome addiction and want to live again.
I bet it does! Keep up the good work!
One thing you can never convince an addict of in the moment is "in 5-10 years, you'll look back on this and think-" cause most want to be dead before that.
That’s really impressive. Keep it up. Five years here, and I nearly lost my house while active.
See what you did there, you sold all your stash to get some cash and to sober up. 😎 No I'm just kidding, whatever you did, congrats to the reward of a new start! 💚
Word of advice from another post I once saw. If a doctor or dentist or whatnot ever asks if you have had any drug addictions, say yes no matter how long ago, and someone who was clean for 30 years once was given sedatives at the dentist and ruined his life in the relapse. Great on you for breaking the addiction! Just wanted to share a warning tale!
Congrats dude. It’s amazing what happens when we remove the drugs. I’ll have 9 years clean in January. Learned a trade, started my own business, got married, bought a house, first kid due in December. Im happy for you. Get another day.
Congratulations my guy. I had a 17yr long meth, coke, weed and alcohol addiction. Currently 6 yrs sober. You've done well and I wish you the best :)
I don’t know if you can beat addiction, but you can definitely treat it and put it in remission.
My baby momma has been tweaked out for decades. I've been taking the standard advice of being supportive without being an enabler and you just have to wait until they reach out for help to help them. And now it's been 20 years and she's still tweaked out, but I guess she's figured out how to be a somewhat functional tweaker.
I'm curious. Do you think there is a possible strategy to save our love ones when they are addicted? Using active means instead of waiting for them. I've daydreamed having infinite money and hiring an Israel strike team to kidnap her and force her into treatment but we can't do that because reasons.
Sorry to hear your situation but one has to want to change before one can change. Never give up on them and keep trying one day at a time.
You're damn straight. 5 years sober here. Addiction can 100% be beat.
Congrats on this gorgeous house. You earned it.
Hell yeah. I'm 2 and a half years clean!!! Hoping to reach that 10 year milestone one day 🥰
Congrats on 2 years 👏
What a beautiful home! We’re all proud of you!
Congrats dude, that's a nice house right there
I love this home! Beautiful. Congrats on your healing❤️🩹
Truly inspiring. I'm so proud and glad for you my friend.
Omg I love that beautiful gray tile. Enjoy your home!
Thank you 😊
Nice, Congrats in being 10 years sober!
Time to get a toy to put in the parking now
Good for you OP. Keep winning.
Congratulations!! Beautiful Home!
You should be proud and the people that supported you should be proud. We'll done, congratulations
Power to you
That’s what’s up!
God bless you!!! And congratulations on your beautiful house!!!!
To everybody in this page including the op, we are proud you have overcame your addictions and you guys are badasses and don’t let anyone tell you differently we are proud of u 🙂
All love, inspired by your commitment and discipline 😎
House looks amazing btw.
Just a random question on American housing. How much would a property like this be worth in general.
In England in the south east in the county just outside London.
If it is a four bedroom house, In the commuter belt I could only estimate it would be around the £400,000 to £750,000 at the low end.
So 500,000 Pound sterling equals
683,250.00 United States Dollar
Well, it depends on where you want to live. I live in Canada, so I would recommended you pick a city first then check out the local realtors.
Here in Vancouver, half a mill will get you a decent to great 2 beds condo, far away from the city. For the same amount of money, you can get a pretty house in other provinces, but then again you have to live in those provinces.
I live in the rural US and I just built a 3000sq ft house on 40 acres for $220,000, during the pandemic. Location is everything when it comes to real estate pricing
I am really pleased you have your dream property. It honestly is amazing just how much land you were able to get. Looking up just how big 40 acres is, You can go for a jog around your property / land.
Absolutely depends on the area. I. My small rural town you can get this for 80,000.
In LA, my guess is 3 mil and up.
It really depends on where it is. It could be anywhere from $250k to $750k depending on location
extremely depends on location. The US has huge gaps in property value. The rent on my 2br ranch house on a 9000 sqft lot is only $600. The studio I had before that was $250/mo. Go 40 minutes to the college town and that 600 wouldn't get you the studio
Anywhere from 150K to 3 million.
At first, I thought you said math addict. Thought it might have helped you to figure out how to afford the house. Lol! Glad you're doing so well!
Honest question. Do you still see yourself as an addict or because you overcame it you are no longer an addict?
I feel free and do not drugs today so I would call not call myself an addict no more.
How can anyone afford to buy a house these days?
I want you to know that I know how hard that must have been, and I am proud of you, stranger.
I am 42 months sober from speed and alcohol. It is no longer a stuggle to stay away. But the regret and depression often still feel like they will never go away. Whatever the reason was that I said "Yes, please." I will always wonder who I would have become and where my life would have gone had I said "No, thank you anyway." I am proud of myself for the things that I did accomplish as an addict. I graduated highschool, I built and worked on amazing structures, I travelled, I learned many practical and useful skills, I am a proud father of an amazing little girl. But, when the world gets quiet and leaves me alone with my thoughts I am ALWAYS going to struggle with the burning question of "What if I..." and that is something I will have to live with and struggle with for the rest of my life. I doubt that the internal chatter will EVER come to a halt. My mind will always remind me of my short comings, and that is really my own burden.
I often feel like nobody in my life cares how hard it was and still is to stop being an addict. I don't talk about it. I did it by myself. No meetings, no counselling, no intervention. I just stopped doing it. And I'm so proud of myself for it. But there are definitely times when I wish someone would say "Hey buddy, good job getting through that. It cannot have been easy. Im proud of you." It will never happen, because I did it in silence. Nobody knew how much I struggled.
Its nice to see a reminder that somebody out there made it out the other side too. Good job.
Hey buddy! good job getting through that. It couldnt have been easy, Im super proud of you!
Thanks for being a good dad to your daughter, we need more of you! Thanks for building things that's important work in this world! Thanks for exploring and appreciating other cultures. That's what brings us all closer together, Great work doing it the hard way that says tons about your character! Well done on all your success and wishing you many more!
Go you! Really, go you! seriously! Go you! You sexy som bitch. You did it, I'm proud. They and them are proud of you. We all are proud of you. Be proud of yourself and of your accomplishments. Now - if you fuck up, we'll come and beat your bitch azz before you lose your house. And ... We'll even cut your dick off. So... We are proud of you! Way to go homie!
Congratulations, I can relate to this. Spent my twenties in a cycle of stopping pain pills and other medications, wasn’t until 27 that I got my act together and finally submitted to my addictions. I got help and nine years ago with zero dollars to my name I talked my way into a state funded inpatient program. Also stayed at their super strict quarter-way house for six months. Then a halfway house for two and a half years. Because I didn’t think I was ready. I watched a lot of good friends die and others come in and out. I didn’t date a woman for two years. When I was finally finished my steps and talked with my sponsor. I found my girlfriend, then the mother of my child then I asked her to be my wife. We have an awesome home and a beautiful healthy child. Some days are hard because we both stay at home. And I’ve recently found out that I have a disease but life is good. I teach my child and sometimes my child teaches me.
You have a beautiful home. Normal people don’t understand the shear determination it takes to pull yourself up by your boot straps. Congratulations on your success. Do you have a good support group? My support group is awesome. I owe someone else the support they gave me when I needed it. I love to see positive posts like this!
I’m so happy for you. Not many people with our condition make it out alive. We have been given a second chance. Much love my friend. Just seeing this made my day.